What Is This?

What is this is one of my favorite phrases because it can be used in a variety of situations from describing an outfit I don't like to a TV show I don't like to a movie I don't like (is there a pattern here?). So now I going to use it to describe a situation I don't like that I have now heard of three times. What is this situation? It's guys telling the women they are dating/living with that they won't have sex with them until they've lost weight. Let me just say that the ladies in question are by no means overweight. They range in age from youngish to older, short, tall-you name it. All are very attractive. But that's not the point. The point is that in my experience (and I've had someone who didn't want to have sex with me but never said it was because he wanted me to lose weight-it was because of something else entirely) when someone says they don't want to have sex with you unless you lose weight, they should just say "I don't want to have sex with you" because that's what they mean. Unless the person has gained so much weight that they are now a hideous beast, the weight thing is an excuse. It's the easy way out and it puts all the burden on the (usually female) other person. And then they work and work to try and lose weight, thinking that if they do the person they love will want to have sex with them again when the truth is that they could be supermodel thin and it would not make any difference because the other person has either found someone else or just doesn't want you any more. Guys-please. If you don't want to have sex anymore with her, just say so and break up with her. Do NOT say we can have sex if you lose weight because 1) It's a lie and 2) because it's about the most hurtful thing you can say to woman AND it's a lie.

Yes, this irritates me. Women are hung up enough about their weight without some guys telling them crap like this when it's really a psych-out ploy that puts all the blame on the woman so the guy doesn't have to take any responsibility at all. "She wouldn't lose weight so we broke up". It's one thing if she weighs 100 lbs pound more than she did and refuses to get help for it and sits on the couch eating ice cream all day (which sounds more like depression) and it's quite another if she looks great and he says I want you to be as thin as Kate Moss and we won't have sex until you do-so she kills herself to do it, when he wouldn't have sex with her unless she turned into a different person, preferably someone else. Guys, grow up. if you don't want to do it, say so and say why. Take responsibility for what you want and don't want and don't use weight as an excuse when you really just want out of the relationship. What IS this?